thank you for your comment. I agree with you 100% that things happen for a reason, and while there might be temporary pain, they eventually make perfect sense. The relationship breakup is dragging on as we divide the physical stuff we accumulated together and one household becomes two again. There is some distracting financial stuff happening but it is a bit hard to put a price on being able to be myself and do both afterwork/blogging/offline social interaction whenever it suits me (as time allows).

And out of the ashes of the old, something new is slowly emerging that might just see me being truly happy for the rest of my life.

Thank you for the offer of a holiday, it is greatly appreciated I can see it now, me driving through the rain looking for a sign saying “The Snoskred Retreat for Slightly Damaged Bloggers”
And thank you most of all for caring
Best regards, Andrew

I believe everything - both good and bad - happens for a reason, though we may not know the reason at the time it happens. It is difficult when you are deep in the middle of something to see the bigger picture.

One of the best things someone ever said to me when something terrible happened to me - “This may not make sense to you now, but a year, two years down the road, you’ll look back and it will make perfect sense”. They were right - it did. I wouldn’t be who I am today without every experience I’ve ever had - good or bad. That terrible thing I mentioned was one of the most character building things - it sent me into a depression and I had to work hard to climb out of it. It has completely changed how I look at life.

Anyway - none of that is probably very comforting right now, I just thought I should say it in the hope it might be useful because it did help me once.
Maybe you need a break from work and home. Can anyone say South Coast holiday? We have a futon, it’s yours if you want it.

Cheers,
Snoskred

thank you for your comment and for your incredible support.

I too need to make time for the people who are important to me. I saw my children for the first time in what seems like months on Sunday - and they are growing up mostly without me.

Thank you for being there, even when I have not been terribly bearable.

Best regards, Andrew

thank you for your comment and for your good wishes.

I know intellectually that the pain will fade with time - it is taking the emotions a little while to catch up with that.

I will do my best to take care.

Best regards, Andrew

i know its been hard. Hang in there. You have friends who care about you.

I too, as you know, throw myself into my work and sometimes it is difficult to have time to balance this with family and friends. Losing my dad did teach me that there are more important things than work, i just have to be reminded sometimes. We are all busy, but need to make time for people that are important to us.

Maria

I lost my dad 7 years ago on Thanksgiving. Time helps - you never get over it, but it’s not as acute after a while. I still talk to him from time to time, when something makes me think of him… and my sister has written him letters.

Take care of yourself!

thank you for your comment, and for your words of wisdom.

I agree wholeheartedly!
Best regards, Andrew